Why You Should Never Look Down On A Stranger
February 4th, 2010 by *Scarlett
I was a little hesitant to write this up, but there is a lesson in it that I feel is more beneficial to share than to blow off. I want to tell you all a little story, and hopefully remind everyone of the importance of not being self righteous. Not so long ago I went to an event, an absolutely awesome event where I met and reconnected with a lot of awesome people and for the most part it was an epic party! Now most who knew me before I got there, and those who met me know that I do a lot of adult themed work and am therefore a little more free with hugs and public displays of affections. Now one person apparently had no idea wheat my line of work was and was very embarrassed by my behaviour… enough to send several facebook messages using terms like “unprofessional slut”, “out of my league” and “banning” me from future affiliated events. The kicker? This person does not have that authority, and no one else took issue (I checked around). Now the purpose of this post is not to point fingers and say I did X,Y, & Z and so did blah blah blah. The purpose of this is that without knowing a thing about me, this person went on a full blown and down right nasty tirade. Now.. admittedly I was livid, but I did the best thing I knew how and just forwarded it all to my PR person, offered too write up a review of the person’s work and apologized again despite the massive personal attacks. That is a big mistake to attack a stranger, because whether I am the “stupid whoring fan” she perceived me as, or the entertainer who comes from a long line of entertainers, that should not matter. First off, everyone should be kind to others and not feel it’s okay to go to such low blow levels because “fans are nobodies”.
She made mention of how I’d never be anything, and I sort of smiled to myself on the second as I watched myself on Showtime, looked at the sheer amount of cash that is being dumped into the second movie I wrote, and looked over how much I’ve managed to do simply by being nice. Back on track though, what if I were a bitch? What if I were like “Oh ok, so you have your connections, I have mine, BAM watch yourself get banned from X,Y,Z?” Of course I would never do such a thing, nor do I feel that anyone should but that goes along with my point here, those strangers that we see, the ones that rub us the wrong way and we are so quick to judge may be the very ones that can help us along our way. I work in a lot of adult events, there would have been a high demand for someone with those skills, not to mention a lot of high paychecks. Instead of looking at those possibilities though, or at the olive branch of free promo she jumped at a chance to attack… repeatedly. It wasn’t just me that she spazzed out on, but I am the nicest one. Some are going after her job. My agent asked if she should add a clause to the 229 contracts she holds that prohibit her talent from working with this person. I said not necessary but that is just an indication of how bad some of these comments were.
She made a rookie mistake, and I saw that so I let it slide, but some people, especially people with larger egos would not have. So in case you missed my point (I have had to write and rewrite several times to make sure this person could not be identified), what I am getting at is never let your ego get the best of you, never assume that you are better than someone be they fan or entertainer, never run off at the mouth if you don’t know who you’re talking to (not that you should run off at the mouth anyway) and never blame your mistakes on a “fan” and feel like it’s okay to ridicule them. Karma is bad, entertainment is unforgiving and in the end, those with the largest egos whether justified or not are the ones that people turn on and love to watch fall. I am fine that she feels superior because everyone needs a “win” every now and then, I just hope that the next person she does it to is also as forgiving.
On a side note the party was absolutely awesome everyone there rocked my socks, and I love everyone. I did get drunk, but feel free to ask Ms. Christie I was getting kisses and lap dances before I even touched a drink, just like I do everywhere I go. It’s just how I am. I mean have you read the bio? “actress, model, drunken Irish Stereotype it’s all in a days work”.. enough said. So take this lesson, and remember it whether you are the one judging or the one being judged. No good can come of intentional cruelty and malicious behavior.
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